Remember when you were little and learned about George Washington chopping down his father’s precious cherry tree, and then fessing up? This lesson was shared so that we, as kids, wouldn’t tell a lie. I think 200 years from now, in some Ancient American History course, a teacher will tell kids about a Little Big Man and proclaim, “He wouldn’t let anything stop him.” Kids will say, “I won’t let anything stop me, either!”
Remember when you were young and playing with friends and a situation came up where there was tension and fear? Maybe you were double-daring one another to do something. Typically, someone said, “You go first!” Going first takes courage.
The drive for perfection in raising something as mercurial as a child is, as Brene Brown put it, “seductive and dangerous.” Parenting is an emotional wrestling match between love, expectations, fear, hope, frustration, doubt, comparison (what is her child doing?) and self-worth (which depends on the success of my child!)